A Guest Post from Cari :)

I am so very excited for this post! A while back I asked readers if they would be interested in doing a guest post and Cari wrote me and said she would :) What a blessing this article is and I am so excited to share it with you. Please visit Cari's blog over at

The Blog of a Writing Maiden.

As always if you are interested in doing a guest post just let me know your email in a comment and we can get it set up :)

And now Cari's post:

The Lord has made us to be creatures with souls and emotions, like Himself.  With this comes a desire for friendship and relationship.  But, so often, we can easily develop negative feelings towards people: anger, bitterness, envy, jealousy.  Even in our own families, it can be easy to find fault and to get in arguments.

I'd challenge you to consider: we live for a very short time.  We will soon be dead.  It is a simple fact of life, and we do not have long upon this earth to really love each other.  Our lives should be focused on preferring others, and serving the Lord, but instead, we easily get caught up in what other people are doing and how they compare to ourselves.  Our lives should be taken over with a servant's heart, but in reality our hearts want to serve ourselves.

            
I believe the Lord has been teaching me recently about how I view and treat those in my own family.  If someone does not do something up to the standard I would wish, I sometimes get upset with them.  I think I am trying to confront them in a biblical way, pointing out their faults in love, but that is not really the case.  In reality, I think I was really just trying to convict them of what I thought were sins in their lives (and they may have been).  But, I was not pointing anything out with biblical love.  I was irritated with them, and was just trying to get them to change into how I wanted them.
                 
They may have faults, and sins they are struggling with, but you see, God does not call me (or anyone else) to be the Holy Spirit.  It is not our jobs to convict people of their wrongdoings.  That is not to say we can never point them out.  But, for single young ladies like myself, I think we should really be striving to focus wholly on the Lord and OUR relationship with HIM.  Instead of focusing on others' shortcomings, we should be focusing on our own, and repenting from them.
                
I might easily avoid something which another struggles with each day.  And that is their struggle, which the Lord will work with them on.  He doesn't need my help; He knows fully what He's doing, and what is the best approach for that person.  I might not struggle with that thing they're struggling with, but I have many other struggles.  And my struggles are not theirs.
     
I think it's important to have understanding for each other and I believe that is a part of having brotherly love.   Romans 12:10 "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;" We need to understand that we are each going to have a different walk, and we are each going to have our own unique struggles.  I believe this is where forbearance comes in as well.
             
I know I still do not completely grasp all of this; it is all so profound (not what I'm saying, but what I was trying to explain).  The way God's love works, and the way He wants us to live is so complex even in its simpleness.  I really think I'm just scratching the surface of the iceberg in what I'm learning now, and when I die, I really think I'll only have made a small dent.  Even when I begin to think I know what love is, I'm just catching a small beam of it, and looking at it in awe, when the whole of it is so magnificent and bright in its glory.
            
"Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
         
May the Lord be praised!  He is patient with us, even when He looks down here to earth and sees us messing up our relationships, and blundering around with clouded vision.  He loves us anyways, and He is still willing to teach us, over and over again, how to love like He does.  He is patient with our feeble efforts to understand Him and His love - He is awesome!  His might is really unspeakable, isn't it?  "For great is the LORD and greatly to be praised; He is to be feared above all gods." Psalm 96:4

A Guest Post on Contentment

One of my best friends wrote this and shared it on facebook. It really struck a chord in me and so I asked her if she would not mind me sharing it with you all on here. I am praying you are blessed by it as I was:

"But godliness with contentment is great gain." 1 Timothy 6:6

How many times have I heard it said: "God will not give you what you want until you are contented where you are." I've even given that advice on several occasions. But today, I had an amazing revelation about true contentment...at least it was for me. It was a simple thought that the Lord brought to mind that changed my perspective on this little nugget of advice that gets thrown around Christian circles so easily.

You see, I have heard people say this to people who are not where they want to be in life over and over again. It's just the right thing to say. Your friend comes to you and says that she's tired of being single and she wants to be in a relationship. "God won't give you what you want until you're content with where you are." A young wife wants to know why all her friends are having kids and she's not pregnant yet. "God won't give you what you want until you're contented with where you are." It's the answer to all our problems with our present and our future...we're just not content enough to make it to the next step.

Now don't get me wrong, we are supposed to be content with where the Lord has us in life. The Bible is very clear that contentment is a crucial part of the joy that can be found in the Christian walk. The problem I had was the reason behind being content.

I was sitting on the floor in my living room, thinking about how I wish some things in my life were going a little more according to the plan I had in my head. I was starting to feel a little discouraged when I grabbed a hold of my favorite response for times like this: "God won't give you what you want until you're contented with where you are." "That's just it," I thought. "A little bit more contentment and my life will get back on track." And right then, God broke into my little conversation I was having with myself and said something to the effect of... "Do you really think My relationship with you is that superficial? Do you really think that I'm sitting here waiting for you to look like a contented Christian... to tell all your friends that you're happy where you are, and you hope nothing ever changes? Do you really see this relationship as a game of 'How happy does she look where I put her?' Is that what you think contentment is?"
And that's when I realized that I had been looking at contentment all wrong. All this time, I had seen contentment as a means to an end, as a way to get where I thought I should be. Contentment wasn't a life attitude. It was an appearance I had to keep up to show God I was ready for my next life step. I mean, it's not like I was consciously thinking that I would fool God into my way of looking at life. I was just doing it because that was what contentment was. That was how it was supposed to be used. But what I didn't get was, contentment is not a tool. It's not the way to get to where I want to be. Contentment is a lifestyle. It's satisfaction with God's plan whether He gives you what you want or not. So I'm not working to fill up my contentment quota for the day. I'm praising God that I have this wonderful life that I have to serve Him with! It's not "Contentment now, results later." It's just contentment. Joy over the fact that Father loves me enough to give me what I have...no strings attached.

So maybe this isn't news to any of you. Maybe I'm the only one just now getting this. And if this lesson was just for me, then I'm very thankful for it! But I thought I'd share what God showed me, in case anyone else could get anything from it. Christians are a family that are meant to build each other up, so hopefully this was an encouragment to somebody.

In Christ,
Elisha Chase

Guest Post #4: Singleness and No Compromise

Hey all you bloggers out there!
This is the last of four guest posts that range on topics from singleness to modesty to living a life of no compromise for Christ. I have really enjoyed all the posts that people Note: my words will be ITALICIZED and the actual posts will just be in REGULAR type. Now onto the series :)
Please feel free to leave comments and/or contact with any thoughts, questions, or your real life experience with singleness, modesty or living a life of no compromise and would like to share feel free. Also feel free to visit the previous guest posts:

Guest Post #1: Singleness
Guest Post #2: Modesty
Guest Post #3: Singleness

This final post is written by my dear friend Jane. She has been an amazing source of encouragement to me over the past year and I am so excited to share what she has written with you :)

Where where are you my beloved? -- Part 1 (December 2008).

Yes where is he?? i've waited for this special man that God will send to me since i was very young, i waited and waited until i started dating. Big mistake. Big big mistake, through all these hard lessons that God gave me, through much heartbreak i learned to be more pure in relationships, and to preserve my body as a holy temple of God. Temptations befall everyone, but i repeat again, DO NOT DO NOT give yourself away before marriage, God set those rules for a reason in the bible, HE knows what's best for us =)) Just wait however long it takes..the waiting does matter, and God is like a potter, HE prunes us slowly and he molds us to be the best wife, mother, and friend and lover and daughter of God. These single years have been such a blessing to me. I have not been single long, only since this July, 2008. I had to break off a very dear relationship, because the guy was not Christian..after much prayer i had to put my foot down and tell him that God is first in my life, it took tears, but in the long run i am glad that we never got intimate. I learned the hard way about that long ago, i don't want to get into too much detail, but it's obvious that God had to prune me the hard way. He molded me, refined me like fire, and made me pure again through HIS Love, Faithfulness, and His Word.
I went through a very long relationship with a Christian man for over 2 years, we were engaged too, but things fell apart slowly, and it was for the best. God knew that relationship was not meant to be. So HE took him away from me to never return..BUT i am glad for that, BECAUSE if the Lord never took HIM away, i wouldn't be WHO i am today! i've grew stronger and more spiritual on my own without a man. YET i know the Lord is good and HE will bring me the one i've been waiting for....
the only question is when???
The strange thing is i think God had already sent him to me, someone at church is such a great guy, BUT i feel this is not the right time, so i'll just wait for God to sort all this out ...and to make time perfect or to send me another...Only the Lord knows what's best for us..He does..always have FAITH in HIM and trust HIM, it took much hardships for me to learn to trust HIM more and to not lean on my own understanding but on HIS own. I always relied on myself too much, i'm trying to break myself away from that, it's a slow process, because i'm stubborn lol

But seriously, this waiting seasons have refined me like nothing else. And i know that this long long time will eventually prepare me to be a better woman, wife, mother and daughter of the King Most High.

I can only pray and hope to be a woman like the one in Proverbs 31. But it will take a lot of work on God's part and on my part. I pray a lot, the thing i lack in my spiritual walk is to read more of God's Word. I get sooo busy with college, work, life that i don't read the WORD often enough. It has to be my daily essence...i know that, and gotta work on that =))

Where are you beloved?? Part 2, almost 1 year later (October 30, 2009).

What can I write now almost 1 year later that I didn’t mention in part 1?
My words escape me, yet there is a truth I learned in this year alone about singleness is putting God first no matter what. I have learned what it is like to surrender to the Lord what it is like to get really much closer to HIM. And what’s it is like to leave it all at His feet. That alone has given me freedom. And honestly at this point almost 1 year later..I am not as concerned about when and how this prince will come. I know God will send Him in Due timing. But in the mean time like many other girls here on Katy’s blog said, we need to use our single years to glorify God Almighty J We need to use our single years to live life and to live to glorify God. We can not sit behind and wait wait for that perfect guy to come and then settle and date.
I’ve done enough dating in my life many years ago to have learned that dating is not what it’s cracked up to be.
Courting is a better option. But for some the best thing is to just be friends and then marry. But it all works different for everyone.
What I do know now one year later which I didn’t realize one year ago. IS that God truly has a plan, a future for me (Jeremiah 29:11-14) And if HIS plan is to keep me single now it’s ok. I’ve come to terms with that…as long as I have him as my Lord that’s all that matters. HE should be foremost the Lover of Our souls. I need to learn to see Him as my husband and HAVE Him as my best friend. I have struggled with so many temptations this week, yet the Lord has always been faithful. And He is always good.
And I can honestly say that IF I get married when I am 40 it will be well worth it. Yes I may have to wait awhile…but sometimes the Lord has to prune not just us but our future husband too. Sometimes he may not be ready either. I can honestly say today that if I got married when I was 22, it would have ended in disaster. I was just a babe then, not ready or equipped for marriage. I may be more ready now, BUT the Lord has his perfect timing in everything. We just got to Trust Him at all times and Wait on Him patiently. Waiting can be hard but is so well worth it. I am 30 years old and I have learned patience in these single years that I would have never learned if I got married when I was 20. The Lord has plans, a hope and a future for me and for all of you.
I am actually writing this all a 2nd time today because my file in Word document was erased, so I am redoing it all..But God had a plan in that too :))
One last thing we have to pray for our future spouse, for God to edify him and make him the best man HE wants him to become. Just pray for your future husband/wife tonight For God to teach them about humbleness, love, and being God’s servant. Just pray for their heart and soul. I think I said enough tonight.
Just remember to wait on the Lord, HE has the perfect time for when you 2 will meet, He has a perfect time for it all. It will be beautiful and so sweet, IF and only IF you wait. Don’t ruin it by dating. Don’t ruin it. DO NOT settle for anything But God’s very best. HE has had two of you in mind since time began. So just be patient my dear friends, Your waiting will be well worth it.
Here is a beautiful verse that has comforted me lately…It’s my new favorite and then I’ll close!

Psalm 27:14 (King James Version)

Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.

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That verse has given me such peace and comfort.
I want to thank Katy for giving me the opportunity to post on her blog. Thank you Katy for being a good friend. And thank you for the opportunity to write.
Blessings to all!!

The Lord's Perfect Timing

The past few weeks things have been a little bit crazy emotionally and in a lot of other ways.
Tonight I opened up my "Daily Light" (a devotional that is a collection of verses for morning and night) and this is what I read (From my Prayer Journal)

"The Lord of Hosts...
is wonderful in counsel and
excellent in guidance."
Isaiah 28:29

"If any of you lacks
wisdom, let him ask of God,
who gives to all liberally
and without reproach, and it
will be given to him."
James 1:5

"Trust in the Lord with
all your heart, and lean
not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge
Him, and He shall direct your
paths."
Proverbs 3:5-6

Lord, today of all days I needed this encouragement (of Who You really are), reminder (to talk to You and ask You for wisdom in certain situations) and exhortation (to trust You Lord and stop trying to figure things out on my own).
Thank you Jesus! Your timing is truly perfect! :)

The final guest post is coming tomorrow! In the meantime if you want to check out the previous three:

Guest Post #1: Singleness
Guest Post #2: Modesty
Guest Post #3: Singleness

Also, I am almost done with the next post in Sacred Singleness Series so there are some things to keep you all busy in the meantime :)

Blessings to you all :)

PS: I am going to be trying to blog each day this month. I guess that November is kinda like the official national blogging month so this is my 1st post of 30 for this month :) We will see how this goes!

Guest Post #3: Singleness

Hey All You Fellow Bloggers out there!
I am finally getting on schedule! My goal was to post these guest posts every two days and today (for the 1st time) I have accomplished that :)
This is the third of four guest posts that range on topics from singleness to modesty to living a life of no compromise for Christ. Note: my words will be ITALICIZED and the actual posts will just be in REGULAR type. Now onto the series :)
Please feel free to leave comments and/or contact with any thoughts, questions, or your real life experience with modesty. Also feel free to visit the previous guest posts:

Guest Post #1: Singleness
Guest Post #2: Modesty


So this post is on singleness. I know that the 1st post I did in this series had to do with singleness (Click HERE to read it) but I think that as a single young lady personally I can never be reminded to much to keep my eyes of faith on Christ and wait patiently for when or if HE chooses to bring me an earthly love story. Last night ,after spending a few hours with the most adorable six month old on the planet, I got a severe case of "Icanhardlywaittobeawifeandmother". Before this past year I someday my earthly prince will come and until then I will just strive to fall more and more deeply in love with my Heavenly Prince :) ♥ Sometimes it can get lonely though (specially with a lot of pairing off with my friends and people I know the older I get) but God is so good and gracious to send reminders (like this post) to keep my eyes on HIM!

Ok, so enough rambling! This post is written by my dear friend Katie. Ironically we got to know each other via blogs and then facebook and then texting :) Even in the short time we have known each other it is such a blessing to be able to connect in so many ways with her. She has been such an encouragement to me! Plus we are alike in some crazy ways! :) God is so good to send people along in our lives right when we need them most and that is what He did with Katie (yes we have the same name!). She has devoted an entire blog to encouraging other single ladies to keep their eyes on Christ and view their singleness as a gift. Check her blog out: God Will Bless Those Who Wait (click here). And now onto the post:

First off, I'd like to thank Katy for allowing me to write this post. I have so enjoyed getting to know her. She is such a dear friend and I thank God for being us together! I am very pleased to continue getting to know her better. And am very thankful to be able to write for her. : )

When asked to write on the topic of singleness, I was quite excited! I have a whole blog where I write on singleness and relationships. But as I started preparing for this post, I have to admit I had not a clue as to what I'd write. Having never been in any type of relationship, I am not an expert on the subject by any means, it is something God burdened my heart for so I write about it. And being only 19 years old, I am not a expert on singleness either. But I do have my own experience with singleness. It has been horribly hard at times, but I am honestly excited to greet the day I am no longer single. I don't believe its right for a Christian woman to go out and seek a man. The Bible say that a man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife...which shows that the man is to seek the wife. But that doesn't mean I just sit at home and wait for my 'Prince Charming' to show up. I believe my part is to lift him up in prayer and trust God to reveal the future to us when we are both ready. In the mean time, I am learning to be content with the love of my Heavenly Prince. And in doing that, I can feel that God is creating a love within me for my future husband. As far as I know, I have never met my future husband...and if I have, than God chose not to reveal him to me. But I have a journal of letters to my future husband, and I can't tell you how much it has helped me to write them. My plan is that I will give it to my husband on our honeymoon. I want him to know that I kept my not just my body, but my heart for him. I have often had times where I saw people my age pairing off and me still single. But truth be told, I don't want the type of relationship I see others my age with. They seem to be so focused on having fun and their emotions...and that type of relationship won't always end so well. I guess in a way I am happy to still be single, I'd rather be single until God thinks I am completely ready for marriage then have a relationship when I'm not ready and end up making a mess of things.

I know I've been rambling a bit here, but I guess I said all that to say this: Don't be too discouraged with your singleness, use this time to serve God in every way you can. And be content with His love and with loving Him. Also know this, you aren't alone...they are many other young people who are giving their singleness up to God and they understand what you're going thru. : )

Katie

(www.katiemarie2003.blogspot.com - www.those-who-wait.blogspot.com)

Guest Post #2: Modesty

Hey all you fellow bloggers out there!
I am so excited to finally be getting back to this series of blog posts that I was supposed to finish last week but...things happened and yeah did not work out as well as I thought BUT God is faithful and today is the start of a NEW week and I am excited to get going :)
This is the second of four guest posts that range on topics from singleness to modesty to living a life of no compromise for Christ. Note: my words will be ITALICIZED and the actual posts will just be in REGULAR type. Now onto the series :)

This second post is written by Kristen. She is a 20 year old Mamma to Benjamin and a devoted wife to her pastor husband Carl. I love visiting her blog and reading about what it is like to be a young wife and Mother (since that is a dream that I have held close to my heart for...forever). She has been a blessing and inspiration to me and I am sure would be to you as well :) Just click on the button to visit her blog:



Please feel free to leave comments and/or contact with any thoughts, questions, or your real life experience with modesty. Also feel free to visit my article on modesty "Some Thoughts on Modesty" where I share how the Lord has worked in my heart in regards to dressing modestly. I have a section in my right hand sidebar that has some excellent articles and resources for dressing modestly yet attractively :) So be sure to check those out as well!

And now onto the post:

Appearance isn’t everything, but it’s something, and it’s important to keep in mind the subject of modesty when we choose to dress ourselves. It is so easy these days to get caught up in appearances, when we have magazines and television shows and commercials and movies, even songs, telling us we need to be fashionable, we need to be hip, we need to be trendy. Sadly, though, to be fashionable, hip, and trendy, so many people abandon modesty and with that, abandon important morals that only lead to deeper problems. Perhaps if we took more time to dress modestly, young people wouldn’t struggle so much with sexual temptations and desires. When we decide to dress immodestly, we not only do a disservice to ourselves and our image, but we also put our peers in danger of having worldly thoughts.

God through His inspired word commands us to live pure lives in I Timothy 5:22. When we choose what to wear, we should be choosing clothing that tells others that we live pure lives. Dress how you want to be perceived. If you wish to be perceived as a follower of God, then dress like one! Police men dress as police men and expect to be perceived and treated as police men. Doctors dress as doctors and expect to be perceived and treated as doctors. If you dress sleazy and inappropriately, you can expect to be treated that way as well. If we expect to be perceived and treated as though we are Christians, then we should dress like Christians. I Timothy 2:10 tells us that we should dress as those who are professing godliness.

How does one dress as one who is professing godliness? The Bible tells us that we are to keep impure thoughts from our minds (Philippians 4:7-8) and that we are to abstain from every appearance of evil (I Thessalonians 5:22). If our fashion choices promote worldly, impure thoughts in others’ minds, we should be choosing more carefully. God tells us to adorn ourselves with “a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” (I Peter 3:3-4)

When choosing what to wear, keep in mind the wise words of this writer, who is unknown:



“No less than seventeen times the Bible commands us to be “sober,” “sober minded” or to continue in “sobriety.” These words are defined as “sound judgment”, “exercising self-control” and “curbing one’s desires and impulses” (Thayer’s Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament; p. 613). One can be sober in deciding how they are going to dress in public by asking the following questions.

1. If we could send pictures to heaven, would I pose in this garment and send the picture to Jesus?
2. Would Jesus be ashamed of me in this attire?
3. If I had a choice of dress at the day of judgment would I feel this is appropriate?
4. I Timothy 5:22 says, keep thyself pure – does this garment promote and portray purity?
5. Does my clothing cause me to be spiritually minded or worldly minded?
6. Does this clothing conform to the pattern set in Philippians 4:8? (Will others think true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, good, virtuous, and praiseworthy things about me?)
7. If the most respected person I know were coming to visit me, would I want them to see me dressed like this?
8. Does this swim suit, shorts, or tight fitting garment have an effect on the opposite sex?
9. What kind of influence do I have wearing this?”

It isn’t always easy to find things that are appropriate for modest attire, but one who is striving to please God will take all the time they need to be sure they are dressed modestly - For themselves, for others, but mostly to glorify God while we are here on earth.

Guest Post #1: Singleness

Hey all you bloggers out there!
I am so excited to kick start this week of guest posts off! :) There will be four in total ranging on topics from singleness to modesty to living a life of no compromise for Christ. Note: my words will be ITALICIZED and the actual posts will just be in REGULAR type. Now onto the series :)

This first post is written by my dear friend Loca Chica. We have been writing each other back and forth via email and I have been so blessed by her heart for God (Visit her blog HERE). And now onto the post:

But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. (Romans 8:25)

This is what I want to talk about today.
But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. (Romans 8:25)
I'm aware that Paul was probably not thinking about marriage when he wrote this verse, but I do believe that this verse is relevant and true for those of us whose 'hope' is to get married.

To all of you who are single and reading this- I want you to know that God has very important, unique service for you to do during this time in your life. Your singleness is not a mistake, God DOES know what He is doing, and He does have a plan. He hasn't overlooked you, your desires, your dreams, and your life. His ways are higher than our ways, His thoughts are higher than ours.

His plan for those of us who are single right now is a good plan. It is for a reason. Maybe there are things that He needs to teach you, before you are ready to marry. Maybe He is waiting until the person He has for you is ready. Maybe He wants you to draw near to Him, instead of anyone, or anything else. Maybe He simply wants to see if you'll love Him, even if that means trading your dream of becoming a wife and mother, for His dream of becoming more fruitful and productive in the service He has for you to do.

I was thinking while I was in bed the other night, "What if it isn't really about the issue of marriage? What if it's about contentment?" The more I thought about it, the more sense it made. If I cannot be joyful and content to serve God, doing whatever He has for me to do as a single young woman, then it is very difficult for me to believe that I would be content serving Him in the same way as a married woman. Sure, the first couple months of married life may be blissful, but if I do not have a heart that has "learned to be content in whatsoever state it is in" then being married to the most wonderful man in the world will not give me lasting satisfaction.

God desires for us to give ourselves fully to Him. To allow Him to be our "knight in shining armor" to allow Him to fill all of our desires for love and affection. To allow Him to fulfill our every need.

There is a void in every woman's heart. It's a desire to be loved, to be needed, to be made complete. I think our biggest mistake is thinking that marriage will fill this void. This void is our "God spot", no man can fill it. We may think a husband could fill it. But, the only the one who created it in us is the only one who can fill it.

I don't want you to misunderstand me here, though. Is marriage good? Did God create marriage? Do all of us desire to become one in marriage? My answer to those questions is a very emphatic YES. But, marriage does not give a discontent heart contentment. Marriage does not fill all of our longings and desires that God created so that we would be drawn to Him, and He could fulfill us. My point is, it shouldn't require a husband to make us serve God, because that's the only way we've ever "dreamed" of living our adult life. It shouldn't take a husband for us to live life the way God specifically intended for us at this moment. If we are unmarried at this point, God has us where we are for a reason, and that should be enough reason for us to serve Him where He has us with a content, yes, cheerful, heart.

Maybe you're asking yourself right now, yes, you're right..it should be enough. But right now, it just isn't. I understand what you mean. What we 'should' do as Christians isn't always easy. In fact, the bible warns us that it is hard. Really hard. We have to daily "take up our cross" and choose God and His perfect ways over ours, and our sinful, fleshly desires(I am not saying desiring to be married is sinful at all-I am simply saying that desiring it so much that you don't do what you are supposed to be doing right now, where God has you, as a single person is. Desiring it too much is wrong.)we have to crucify ourselves, and choose to follow Christ.

I advise you to use this time of singleness to grow in wisdom and in grace. To grow closer to God, and farther away from your old, sinful self. Ask God to give you a passionate hunger and thirst for Him. Ask Him to make your desires line up with His desires for you. Ask Him to give you a content heart, that desires only to serve Him and love Him fully, no matter what the circumstances, no matter what His plan is.

Of course, you will fall. You will catch yourself being tempted to fall back into self-pity. You may look at a just married couple, and secretly wonder why they are so blessed. Why you have to wait. You will make mistakes. Just remember, that our God is a God of second chances. He understands who, and what we are. He knows that we mess up. When things like this happen, I urge you, run to God, not away from Him. He will be waiting with His arms wide open, ready to welcome you back. He is ready to change you, to mold you into the person He created you to be. And another thing that I've personally found extremely helpful when I feel like being discontent, I do one thing. Praise. Thank God, yes, for anything. When I feel like falling into self-pity, or like God just doesn't care anymore, I pray a prayer something like this, "God, thank you for always loving me. Thank you for sunshine, and butterflies. For smiles, and tears. For trials, and triumphs. For tests, and successes. Thank you for my family. Thank you for a healthy body. Thank you for understanding all of my ways, and desiring only the best for me." It's amazing what a little gratitude can for a discontent attitude!

And as you are " still in the presence of the Lord, and wait patiently for him to act. (Psalm 37:7)", and continue to wait upon the Lord, I pray that you will decrease, and Christ will increase. And whether His will is for you to be married in 2 years, 12 years, or at all, that when you come before His throne in Heaven someday, He will say to you "Well done, my good and faithful servant. You served me selflessly and beautifully with your single years. You chose to be content in Me. You chose 110% surrender."